Bisexuality and Bisexuals

What is Bisexuality?

Bisexuality can loosely be defined as feeling sexually attracted to both genders. In real terms it means acting on this attraction and engaging in sexual contact with partners of both sexes. Those who self-identify as bisexual don't necessarily have to engage in sex; indeed, there are some in the bisexual community who believe that simply saying you are bi makes it so.

Bisexuality is quite common, although not much research has been done to establish exact numbers. Kinsey's sexual research from the 40's and 50's suggests that 15-20% of women and up to 46% of men may have bisexual leanings at some point during their lives. However, the percentage of people who live the bisexual lifestyle is much lower.

At present there is a growing bisexual community. These people identify themselves as bi and work toward raising awareness of what it means to be bisexual, and lobbying for political change.

Bisexual people often encounter misconceptions and myths about their sexuality. They are often marginalized or discriminated against because of these myths, and it can make it more difficult for bisexuals to "come out" and embrace their orientation.

Some common bisexual myths include:

* Bisexuality does not exist. This is simply denying the reality that many people feel attracted to both sexes.

* Bisexuals are just confused gays and lesbians. This myth is an extension of the previous one. It comes from a view that bisexuality simply cannot be real and any attraction to the same sex is just repressed homosexuality i.e. he's really gay, but he's afraid to admit it. This myth is common among the homosexual community, possibly because they see bisexual people as a challenge to their solidarity. After all, they've fought hard to establish an identity and bisexuality is seen by some as proof that gays and lesbians can "choose" their lifestyle.

* Bisexuals are promiscuous. There are many bisexual people who are happily monogamous. There are also those who have one night stands, those who have "open relationships", and there are also serial bisexual monogamists. Bisexuals are keen to point out that number of partners or frequency of sex have little to do with the basic attraction they feel to both sexes.

* Bisexuals cause AIDS. HIV and AIDS are caused by unsafe sex or intravenous drug use. Bisexuals can be just as unsafe or safe as any other person.

Bisexual life will continue to be difficult while such myths are prevalent. The only real weapon is education and tolerance.

Are You Bisexual?

You may be enjoying bisexual pictures and porn and wondering if this makes you bisexual.The fact is, it's entirely up to you to decide whether you're bisexual or not.In a way, bisexuality is just a label and it's how we feel about ourselves that makes a difference. You may choose to call yourself bisexual if you feel attracted to both sexes. Indeed, bisexual organisations say you can be celibate and still bisexual, as it's the attraction that matters.

Studies by Alfred Kinsey almost 50 years ago revealed that vast numbers of people feel attracted to members of both sexes at some time during their lives. This kind of bisexuality, then, is extremely common, and perfectly normal.

Of course, acting on your feelings can make a big difference. There are plenty of monogamous, outwardly heterosexual people who do not act on their attraction (perhaps they simply fantasise, or look for bisexual pictures like those on this site). There are others who do more than think about it, and it's those people whom society considers to be "bisexual."

Bisexuals may have a single encounter with the same sex, or many over many years, with both sexes. Again, it all comes down to what the individual wishes to do.

Sexuality is an aspect of ourselves that develops over time. Teens who may be feeling confused about their sexuality need to relax and learn to be happy with themselves. It may be that their preferences will develop and they will lean one way or another, or perhaps they will continue to feel attracted to both sexes for the rest of their lives. Repressing these kinds of feelings only leads to anxiety later on.

And, of course, sex can be greatly different to love. Meeting the right person and committing to that person can mean that pursuing an active bisexual lifestyle is no longer compatible with the relationship. That too, is OK. Bisexuals are found in all sorts of relationships. Some work out a way to pursue their sexuality, and some are happy to remain monogamous. Trust, communication and respect are always the important factors.

If you are uncertain about your sexuality, it will help to visit the various resources listed on this site, and learn more about bisexuality

This article produced with the help of Biresource

The Bisexual category at Ms Naughty Links


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