OK. So there I was editing this little video for the “Under the Bed” section at Bright Desire. These are non-exclusive videos that I occasionally include on the site because I personally like them. This one got the thumbs up due to the rather cute and playful setup involving Michael playing a video game and Kay doing her best to distract him. That’s what made me buy it, based only on a small sample and I didn’t look too closely at the screenshots.
So I’m editing away and I get to the bit when his pants came off and I uttered the kind of “Whoa” that is usually reserved for Keanu Reeves.
“Hey, look at this!” I yelled to my spouse.
He came in and studied the video freeze frame. “Hmm, the colour correction is all wrong,” he said.
He really isn’t interested in porn, my husband.
Now I’ve said before that I like male bodies of all shapes and sizes. I don’t think a big penis is a pre-requisite for attractiveness (nor for being a good male porn star). I find penises to be lovely and interesting and wonderful to look at no matter their proportions.
Still, when confronted by a schlong that goes halfway to the knee, you can’t help but look twice. I mean, damn! It’s HUGE. It’s like seeing a blue whale for the first time, you can’t help but wonder how something can get so big. If I were to put a black rectangle on it for Facebook purposes it would resemble that scene in Borat when he chases his manager naked into a convention. I found myself wondering where he found all the blood necessary to maintain an erection without fainting.
Isn’t the human body wonderful?
The scene itself reveals that having a huge penis isn’t necessarily an advantage during sex. His petite partner cannot take much of him in, either vaginally or orally. It bends the wrong way occasionally and can be tricky to insert. Nonetheless, they kiss, giggle and have a lovely time – which is why I like this video.
By the way, studies into penis size reveal the average cock is about 5 to 5.7 inches when erect. Michael here is not your average guy.
Yes, I realize this post is rather shallow, that putting up pictures of huge penises is not necessarily very, ahem, feminist. But I know you want to see it – I get a lot of people on the blog looking for this very thing. In 2006 I did a post on Jonah Falcon, who supposedly has the world’s biggest penis. That still gets traffic. Then I wrote about a mockumentary about having a big dick. And then there’s the fabulous acapella song by Da Vinci’s Notebook called Enormous Penis (which I still enjoy singing along to). Actually, I’ve got a long history of penis posts, so there you go.
The scene featuring the guy with the huge penis goes live at Bright Desire shortly. By all means, join up and watch it
In a very short space of time, smartphones have become ubiquitous. The ability to take photos and videos and share it with the internet instantly means that almost any event is now documented and communicated to the world.
The dark side of this is that smartphones are increasingly used as tools of harassment, bullying and assault, especially of women. The above video, featuring the Chief of the Australian Army, Lieutenant-General David Morrison, addresses the problem of sexism within the armed forces, specifically a case where female soldiers and officers had had nude and derogatory photos and language emailed around to other members of the army. The video has made waves today, with many expressing their approval of such a strong anti-sexism message.
“The standard you walk past is the standard you accept,” he says.
This is only the latest in a growing list of public cases of men using nude or explicit images to humiliate, harass, bully or blackmail women. There is the Steubenville rape case, where teenage boys documented the assault of a young woman. There is the rape and suicide of Rateah Parsons, where images of her assault were then spread around and used to bully her further. Californian student Audrie Pott suffered similar abuse and also committed suicide. And Amanda Todd chose to share her awful story on Youtube before she too killed herself, humiliated and bullied because of a photo.
Just yesterday I found this question on Yahoo Answers, in which a young man speaks of how a group of his “friends” decided to strip a drunk girl naked and take photos of her for “fun” before he stepped in and took her home (worryingly, he was more concerned that his friends had called him ‘gay’ than he was about the assault).
Meanwhile, “revenge porn” sites proliferate and numerous pages appear on Facebook asking men to rate images of ex-girlfriends and women they’ve slept with.
Hell, a few months ago I changed my mind about swimming topless at the beach thanks to the realization that everyone now has camera phones and a pic of me could pop up somewhere, accompanied by abuse. Previously I wouldn’t have cared; it would have just been between me and the people there on the day. They might have looked, laughed or pointed but the potential for problems would have been minimal. Now, a decision to swim topless or nude can equal global exposure.
Clearly, there are plenty of unethical people out there who have no problem with using private images for negative purposes. And the internet means that the private can very easily become public, often without the consent of the person in the image.
I wanted to write about this because I’ve found myself heartily agreeing with attempts by lawmakers to criminalize this behaviour; specifically, I think there should be laws that make it illegal to publish (i.e post on the internet or publicly electronically share) nude photos of anyone without their consent.
At the same time I feel uncomfortable about this idea because in the past I’ve always been a champion of internet freedom and I’ve long opposed online censorship. This kind of law has the potential to go wrong somewhere and become a way of suppressing free speech. It’s currently not illegal to photograph people in a public place and I do think it’s important that this freedom continue unabated.
Nonetheless, I think it’s perfectly fair that we as a society agree that publishing nude or sexual images of an individual requires their explicit consent.
Our patriarchal and sex-negative society still attaches shame to images of the human body; for a woman to be photographed nude is seen as a shameful thing to do, it’s a black mark against her reputation. Nudity, especially sexual nudity, invites judgement and abuse. It means a woman is a slut, a whore, a woman to be spurned. This is why nude and sexual images have power and can be used as a weapon.
So long as this attitude persists, nude images created and distributed without consent cause harm. We should do our best to prevent that harm.
I also want to point out that the porn industry is built on the notion of consent. Indeed, the sex negativity surrounding nude images is why porn stars are paid so much. I make porn and consent is absolutely fundamental to the process.
Every photo and movie in porn is created after the model and porn producer have explicitly signed documents wherein the model consents to the use of their image. They understand that their nude images will be published and they are compensated accordingly. On top of that, porn makes sure that the people in the images are over 18.
There is no reason why this ethic shouldn’t apply to every nude and sexual image created using smartphones and the internet.
Certainly the practicalities may be tricky here and there. It’s not a matter of getting written legal documents every time someone shares a nude selfie with a lover. We shouldn’t start getting paranoid that cute pics of kids in the bath are suddenly child porn. Intent and context should absolutely be taken into account. But the same legal principle that I and the rest of the porn industry adheres to should apply to anyone who seeks to make a nude image public, especially when it can be shown that the publication has caused harm.
And if there isn’t consent and the victim feels harmed, they can then easily pursue justice without having to jump through legal hoops for it.
This Slate piece does a good job of discussing the ins and outs of the issue (how to define “nudity”? In what context was the photo taken?). And the site Without My Consent offers a fantastic resource to victims of online harassment.
I guess I just wanted to state my support for a law that criminalizes online, image-based harassment (although I will gladly hear reasons why I’m wrong to think this).
You know you’re getting old when you get that one candle on the cake. It’s like, ‘See if you can blow this out.’ – Jerry Seinfeld
I remember when the candle shop burned down. Everyone stood around singing ‘Happy Birthday.’ – Steven Wright
Way back in May 2003, when everything was in black and white, a friend and I got together over drinks and decided to make our very own porn for women paysite. We combined our content, put together a bunch of hand-edited html pages, made a tour and bam! ForTheGirls.com was born. We launched it on June 1, 2003 and we hoped it might make a few sales here and there.
I don’t think either of us would have thought that For The Girls would still be going ten years later, nor that it would become one of the largest and most successful adult sites for women on the web. We’ve had plenty of hurdles over the last decade – including the massive rise of piracy and tube sites – but we’re still going strong.
The mainstream porn industry has tried over the years to cater to women with mixed success. Meanwhile, FTG continues on. I think the site has done well because we are independent and because we have always just wanted to offer porn that we ourselves would like to see. Clearly there were (and are) a lot of straight women who want the same thing.
In 2013 I often see people saying “porn for women” is a phrase that shouldn’t be used, that it’s stereotypical, that it’s all just cliched soft focus, that women don’t all like the same thing. But ten years ago when FTG started, “porn for women” was still a new thing and there was very little of it to be had. So many industry people still denied that women even liked porn. For us, “porn for women” meant “porn that acknowledges a female audience, porn that is different from 99% of the stuff that’s out there”. We proudly showed erect cocks and we reveled in looking at naked men.
We were part of a revolution, part of a slow change in the porn landscape that means today, women have a hell of a lot more choice than they used to. “Porn for women” may not be the right term to use anymore but it’s how we identified ourselves at the start and it’s a big part of who we are.
In any case, happy birthday to For The Girls. Now where’s my cake?
(I made this graphic way back in 2004 for our first birthday)
In this porn news post I linked to a news article in the Sydney Morning Herald (via UK The Telegraph) called Children damaged by a diet of pornography. The article details meta-research carried out for the Children’s Commissioner for England by a number of British academics. They looked at 276 different pieces of research and concluded that young people were being raised on a “diet of porn” and were:
“more likely to have underage sex, develop “casual and hedonistic” attitudes, experiment with drink and drugs and indulge in sexting, when explicit pictures are taken and sent to others using camera phones. Boys were much more likely to be exposed to pornography than girls, it was found, resulting in “beliefs that women are sex objects”… It quoted other studies that found a relationship between explicit materials and “higher acceptance and engagement in sexually permissive behaviours…”
In that post I said: “I’m inclined to be skeptical when a ‘permissive attitude to sex’ is seen as a negative outcome.” Because, really, what’s wrong with being open minded about sex, sexuality and differing sexual practices? Surely “permissiveness” is not a bad thing? And that’s about as far as I went with looking at this particular bit of research.
A comment on that post by Justin quoted the commissioner’s findings has made me realise that my passing comment wasn’t really good enough. So I want to state more clearly my ongoing skepticism of some porn research and the way it is reported in the media. Too often, articles such as the one above give very simplistic overviews and often seek to cast the research in an ideological light. In the case of the Telegraph report, the ideology is typical “somebody think of the children!” panic. Because that gets good page views.
The questions that pop into my mind when I look at that article are:
What type of porn, exactly?
How did they define “porn”?
How did they define “children”?
How did they define “harm”?
Who did the research and where did their funding come from?
What was their pre-disposed ideological stance before the research was conducted?
I ask this because a lot of “studies” into porn are actually very dodgy surveys conducted by religious groups seeking to find “evidence” that fits their anti-porn ideology. Plenty of them assume that “porn addiction” is a real thing. Certainly a lot of porn articles start from the default position that all porn is bad or inherently sexist.
Even supposedly rational people can’t help but bring their sexual biases into their research, as we saw with Australian Clive Hamilton. His anti-porn stance has been revealed to come from a rather conservative attitude to sex, perhaps best shown when he couldn’t bring himself to write the word “vagina” in a piece called “Rescuing sex from porn“. It was Clive who, along with Michael Flood, defined the harm of porn as making young people more accepting of “‘open’ sexual lifestyles (e.g. acceptance of casual and extramarital sex, multiple partners, etc.) and ‘unnatural’ practices (e.g. anal and oral sex, homosexuality).” And it was Clive and co who trumpeted research about the terrible effects of porn on “children”, despite the rather important fact that their research involved 16- and 17-year-old boys (a demographic group vastly different from what most people think of when they hear the word “children”). Clive used this to push the government to introduce a mandatory internet filter, a policy that has only just been dumped by the government after 10 years.
So this is why I tend to feel skeptical whenever I see “porn harms children” research. It’s also why I welcome the new Porn Studies journal which seeks to take a more neutral attitude to research.
At the same time, I do understand the concern regarding what young people are learning from porn. It is a topic that was discussed often at the recent Feminist Porn Conference. We all know kids look at porn and we all worry about what they hell they’re taking away from it. We don’t want them to not use it as sex education. We don’t want boys to grow up feeling sexually entitled. We don’t want girls to think they HAVE to give oral sex on the first date. And I’m not going to raise my sword and stoically defend porn from all criticism, especially if it has solid evidence to back it up.
Overall, there were seven significant concerns about the reviewed evidence base:
1. The lack of consensus within the literature regarding what was being examined, or even about who could be considered a child or young person, meant that it was difficult to generalise or extrapolate.
2. Problems with operational definitions of key terms made comparison challenging. These problems included limited knowledge of children and young people’s conceptions or understanding of pornography.
3. Why do we still not know anything about causality? Maybe it is time to ask different questions.
4. Has the nature of the issue changed qualitatively or merely been exacerbated by the pace of technology and people’s uncertainty in a climate of rapid change?
5. Very little research has been conducted that keeps children and young people’s experiences at the centre.
6. The impacts of cultural differences and cultural context are rarely acknowledged or examined.
7. Few papers reviewed for this REA – whether they were included or excluded – even began to consider the effects of pornography on children and young people who were: an ethnicity other than the majority for the country in which the research was conducted; a sexuality other than heterosexual; transgender; or anything other than able-bodied and with full capacity (relative to their development).
Essentially, the researchers themselves have identified why I tend to feel skeptical about these kinds of studies. They’ve also made a very handy list of what future researchers should avoid when they create their research.
Nonetheless, the Children’s Commissioner research does include plenty of things to be concerned about, including the finding that porn does have an influence on children’s sexual beliefs. Thankfully, the report supports education as the best solution, recommending that the UK Department of Education beef up its sex education curriculum and include discussions of porn and relationships within that sphere.
Meanwhile, today sees a new bit of research that contradicts what I’ve just written: it says porn doesn’t really have that bad an effect on people.
Does Viewing Explain Doing? looked at the porn habits and sexual behaviour of 4600 people aged 15-25 in The Netherlands…
”There is this popular belief that if people see something on screen they will act it out in their private lives,” he said. ”But the link is not so direct. The people who are more adventurous in terms of sex are more likely to consume porn. Consuming porn is not causing them to have more adventurous sex.”
The study, published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, found 88 per cent of men and 45 per cent of women had viewed porn in the previous 12 months.
While there was an association between viewing the material and a variety of sexual behaviours, such as group sex and same-sex experiences, it only accounted for slight differences in sexual behaviour.
Professor de Wit said pornography had led to the mainstreaming of practices once considered risque, such as Brazilian waxing. ”But it’s a two-way street,” he said. ”The interest in that practice has to exist already.”
So, if you’re looking for some good porn features or erotic short films, check these out:
Occupied (2013)
It’s been a while since we’ve seen anything new from Shine Louise Houston (although the Crash Pad has been humming along nicely in the meantime). Now we have Occupied. This short mixes politics and sex, something few porn directors are willing to do.
The blurb: A new short film from award-winning ethical porn producer Shine Louise Houston, OCCUPIED is a hardcore romance for the 99%. When an Occupy protester (Maggie Mayhem) dares to strike back at a brutal cop (Kathryn Dupri), the chase is on. Officer Dupri soon finds better uses for her baton, and Maggie’s neither passive nor resistant. But can a cop be trusted? Or is all fair in love and class war? Artfully edited and beautifully explicit, OCCUPIED keeps you guessing from start to stop.
Starring: Maggie Mayhem, Kathryn Dupri Available From
Pink Label: Download
The Pleasure Professionals (2013)
Another witty and sensual couples film from British company Joybear. Justin and his team have really put some effort into making high-quality, interesting erotic films that differ from the usual LA fare.
The blurb: Beneath the hustle and bustle of London exists a secret profession of “Executive Relief Consultants”. Professionals for hire to those who want a little bit more from their sex lives.
Winner: Most Sensual Softcore Movie, 2013 Feminist Porn Awards
Starring: Demetri XXX, Cathy Heaven, Hannah Shaw, Peter Oh Tool, Tiffany Doll, Paige Turnah, Avril Sun, Samantha Bentley, Seth Strong Available From
Ms Naughty Inadult store: DVD
Gamelink: DVD and Download
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I really have been slack with my blogging lately. It’s because I’ve been editing scenes and generally trying to get on top of Bright Desire. I do tweet and facebook regularly and I often share links on those platforms but it’s occurred to me that I should be compiling some of the better links into a kind of news post. So here it is.
Smart Planet has a profile Spanish feminist porn director Erika Lust which details her next project: “The web-based X Confessions, will have people confess their sexual ideas and then Lust will direct short films that act them out.”
Feminist spanking porn star Pandora Blake has encountered censorship issues from her biller, CCBill. They insisted she remove references to “non consent” from the site, even though those words were used in blog posts explicitly detailing the consent involved in the scenes on her site.
US channel Comedy Central features a new show by Amy Schumer where she tackles sex and relationships. This clip plays with the idea of “point of view” porn, which is typically where the guy holds a camera while he is having sex with a woman. This sketch suggests that this is what female POV porn would look like.
It’s a funny concept, though it relies on the idea that women and porn don’t really go together. Madison Young has actually been running a site called The Woman’s POV for a few years and the content is pretty damned hot. I am considering the idea of using a Go-Pro camera in my porn at some point in the future, trying to find new angles and different perspectives. If I do, I promise it will be much more exciting that Amy’s sketch.
It’s taken a month of editing (perfectionist stress mixed with procrastination) but yesterday I finally released the scene I shot with Jiz Lee in Toronto. It’s called “Dear Jiz” and it mixes erotic/sensual images of Jiz in the bath with a voiceover featuring emails and comments from Jiz’s fans. Many of the letters describe how Jiz has had a positive influence on people’s lives, especially when it comes to acceptance of fluid gender identity and sexuality.
The preview above gives a taste of what the scene is like. It’s G-rated for Vimeo but the full scene is explicit and features a lovely orgasm from Jiz.
I’ve wanted to work with Jiz and had hoped to work with them* in Berlin in 2011 but my first chance was at the Feminist Porn Awards on April 5. I asked Jiz what they wanted to do and they suggested a bath scene with the fanmail voiceover. I loved the idea and couldn’t wait to see it realized.
This scene was shot a couple of hours before we went to the awards and was a little rushed due to time constraints. As is the case with all my scenes, it’s fairly DIY and low-budget. You’ll notice there’s a couple of underwater shots in this film: we achieved this via the rather heart-stopping method of putting an iPhone in a Ziploc bag and immersing it, hoping the seal would hold. Thankfully it did and we got some cool shots, albeit a little blurry and lower quality.
Jiz turns on the tap and we hold our breath, hoping the Ziploc seal holds
The full scene is 11 minutes long and I find it very emotionally fulfilling as well as sexy. I’m so proud of this little film and I plan to submit it to numerous festivals over the next few months.
If you want to see it in full, please consider joining Bright Desire – the membership money helps to pay my performers and means I can keep making movies like this!
* Them and they are Jiz’s preferred pronouns. Jiz identifies as genderqueer which is neither man or woman.
** I actually had to add a new Genderqueer category to Bright Desire as I only had “Solo Men” and “Solo Women” sections. I’m a librarian at heart, I can’t help but classify things and I guess it became apparent that I’m still using a gender binary with my site. But I am a believer in tagging and classifying things because it helps the user find what they want; this is just how the internet works. In this case the solution is to make a new category: genderqueer. Just out of librarian curiosity, I went looking for information as to where genderqueer fits into the Dewey Decimal System. This page has some useful info. Given the shifting nature of queerness and genderqueer, it’s hard to pin down. The librarian there opted for 306.768. The history of the way sex and sexuality has been classified in libraries is such an interesting subject; it reflects the changing way that society has seen this topic over the course of the last century.
Every now and then I get an email from a guy asking how he can get into porn, specifically my porn. A lot of them are Indian, which is a little perplexing as I have no idea how they’ve discovered me or found my contact details, but plenty are from the US, UK and Australia. I know many of my porn director friends get the same thing. My friend and fellow feminist director Anna Brownfield has regaled me with amusing stories about her experiences with aspiring actors, along with horror stories of stalky behaviour by would-be-studs with no concept of boundaries.
I totally get why guys want to appear in porn. It seems like the perfect job: you get to fuck beautiful women for money, right? And (in theory) there’s no real social stigma attached for men like there is for women. Indeed, the average guy might assume that he’d be considered a stud and lauded for his sexual prowess. The reality is very different.
Being a straight male porn star requires a very specific set of skills. At a very basic level these skills are:
Develop and maintain an erection for a suspended period of time.
Do this in the presence of your co-star, who you may not be attracted to.
Get naked, get an erection and have sex in front of a bunch of strangers such as the camera operator, the sound person, the production assistant and the lighting crew. Most of whom would just like to go home as soon as possible. There’s also the director who wants certain shots and who is also keen to get the scene done as quickly and efficiently as possible because every second is costing money (equipment hire, location hire, crew hire etc).
Have sex in numerous positions that may not be particularly comfortable, in places that may not be particularly comfortable e.g. on a cold floor under hot lights.
Have an orgasm on cue and not before.
To put it another way: could you, potential straight male porn star, get hard and jerk off in front of a group of other men you don’t know – say, several large bearded members of a motorcycle club – then come on cue and then do it again ten minutes later? If that sounds difficult, you might want to reconsider your ambitions. (If it sounds easy, you might want to reconsider your sexual orientation.) But the fact is – even if you have the most gorgeous female co-star to have sex with and all the crew are female – it’s still going to feel pretty damned weird and impersonal and unsexy.
You may also need to be willing to take drugs like Viagra or use Caverject (which involves injecting erectile drugs directly into your penis with a large needle) to maintain a trustworthy erection. It happens on porn sets far more than you’d imagine. I actually recommend you read the blogs of Danny Wylde and Tyler Knight to read their personal experiences of the hardships of porn.
I have a larger set of expectations for my feminist, female-friendly porn. In fact, the way that I work is very different to the Porn Valley industry and, while I may offer a slightly more comfortable work environment, I still have my own requirements.
So, any potential male star in my films will need to fit some or all of these criteria:
Firstly and most importantly, you must be feminist, sex positive and respectful. Your attitude to the work is vitally important to me. If you think that porn is just about “fucking sluts” then I have no time for you and you should look elsewhere. I want men who are keen to create something positive when they make porn; they need to be on board with my ethics and my philosophy. This means being open-minded about sexuality, being eager to try different ideas on set and being prepared to be presented in a personal way that is different to your typical porn style.
Be OK with the idea of masturbating. I do a lot of solo scenes. Or…
Be part of a real-life couple and have a willing partner. Or…
If you need a partner to perform, you need to bring her along. At present I do not pair up random individuals; I prefer to let the female model make her own choice as to partner.
Be skilled in bed. I’m talking about knowing your way around a woman’s body and knowing how best to give her pleasure. Female pleasure and orgasms are very important in my porn and I need male stars who can make the female stars happy.
Be ready to have safe sex. That means having a very current STI test, a willingness to wear condoms or else a fluid-bonded partner.
Be attractive. Not necessarily in a standard way but you would need a certain je ne sai quoi. What can I say, I’m shallow and I am partial to eye candy.
Have some kind of acting ability. You may not need to recite Shakespeare but I do require my performers to be comfortable in front of a camera and to be able to set up a scene in a believable way.
You do still need to get and maintain an eaction in front of strangers (me and my large and hairy husband who operates the camera). I may not require external cumshots but the fact remains that this is filmed sex and erections are required a lot of the time. I do not have any Viagra.
So… a few other bits of advice.
DO…
Send a respectful email (with a subject header) introducing yourself. Tell me where you are located, why you want to get into porn, what experience you have, whether you have a partner etc
Ensure you send photos with the email – nude full body shots making sure I can see your face. It helps if the photos are nicely composed and well lit, preferably shot with a real camera, not a selfie on an iPhone. I will keep these photos and your details confidential
Provide good contact details and information as to when you might be available
Let me know that you’re actually familiar with my work.
Let me know what kind of sex acts you are willing to do. Hint: if you are interested in more than just straight boy-girl vaginal sex you are more likely to be hired.
Provide information about your performance fee, if you have one, and any other requirements.
DON’T…
Send a one-line email asking me how to get into porn, signed only with your first name
Send dick pictures. Just don’t. It’s creepy and unhelpful.
Assume a large penis is all you need. For me, having a big dick is interesting but not nearly as important as your overall look and your attitude.
Assume that I will be pairing you up with gorgeous porn stars and all you need to do is turn up. That’s now how I work.
Assume that the porn shoot will be some kind of swinger orgy or that I will be part of the scene. I am a married, monogamous woman who shoots porn for a living. I take my work seriously. I am not fantasy material and I am not a fluffer.
Don’t assume there are fluffers. There aren’t. You need to be your own fluffer. Actually, if you can do that, I’ll hire you.
Keep hassling me for work. If I have you on the list, I’ll contact you when I need you. And if I’ve said no, I mean it.
Essentially, be aware that there are thousands of men out there who want to be porn stars but there are very few who can actually do it. Even so, there are opportunities there for the right guy. Approach this as you would a “real” job – have your CV ready, be prepared to be polite and engaging and to do what your employer wants.
Also, be aware that the porn industry isn’t exactly overflowing with money right now. In fact, piracy has meant that there’s not nearly as much work going around as there used to be. So even if you tick all the boxes, there may not be a job for you right now.
Finally, know that appearing in porn is a major life decision and you should be totally OK with the consequences if you do it. As much as we sex-positive people wish it were otherwise, porn still has stigma attached to it – even for guys. Once your image is out there, it’s out there forever. There is no way that you can get it back. If you stop doing porn down the track it may well still cause issues later on with employers or people you meet. I prefer to work with performers who are confident with their choice to do porn and who will feel proud of what they have done – and for my part I do my utmost to present their performances with the respect they deserve.
So… you still want to be a porn star? Well then, email me and maybe, just maybe, we can work together.
PS I do recommend Danny Wylde’s post on aspiring male porn stars here.
Here’s another collection of free galleries and videos from female-friendly and feminist porn sites. Hope you enjoy the fun and remember, if you like what you see – please BUY.
Bright Desire: Kara and Devon – Real life couple have a naughty weekend away and Kara has plenty of loud orgasms. Lust Cinema: Anal KamaSutra – Spiritual backdoor shenanigans. Featuring slow, sensual sex, the pair demonstrate a multitude of Kamasutra positions and techniques that enhance anal pleasure. X-Art: Workout Together – Kristen and her boyfriend have a hot sex after an awesome afternoon run. Dreams of Spanking: Thrashed and Forgiven – She is truly sorry for having been so stupid, and she will be forgiven. But first, she will be punished. For The Girls: Ed Gets Wood – Photos of a smiley guy stripping off his jeans Club Stroke: King James – Handsome man jerks off on video
Last week I went to see Aerosmith, the band whose album PUMP was the soundtrack to my teenage years. I had a fantastic time and naturally stood in awe of the way that 65-year-old Steven Tyler can still do the moves (and not fall off the stage too much). So then I was watching their videos on Youtube and generally admiring the tight pants and spandex much favoured by Tyler.
I’ve already done a piece glorying in revealing spandex called The Top Ten Heavy Metal Crotches. But I thought I’d do another post because, well, spandex.
The 70s and 80s were a time when it was entirely necessary for male rock stars to let the audience know exactly which side you dressed on. And as an officially licensed admirer of the male form, I like that. I wish it would come back. Because the idea of the over-the-top male sex symbol has faded from music a little. It’s either Justin Bieber or Snoop Dog (or whatever animal he is now). While music videos may depict male stars as being irresistible to women, they don’t actually bother to be appealing to women in an overtly sexy way.
I suspect I’m showing my age with that comment, but there it is. And perhaps today’s young whippersnappers really don’t get it… I mean, there’s actually a question on Quora asking “why did rock stars of the 70s and 80s wear such tight pants?”
In any case, here’s some photos of hot rock and roll men in spandex and tight pants. Just because.
The Van Halen singer is quite simply the king of spandex. There are so many images of him rocking out in tight pants that it’s hard to choose which one to feature. The man not only unashamedly wore spandex and leather arseless pants, he also did acrobatics in the process. For more DLR greatness, check the photos on this page. Or Google “David Lee Roth spandex” and sit back in wonder.
The lead singer of Led Zeppelin certainly knew how to wear a pair of tight denim flares. Without fail, you’re pretty much able to make out all the details of his tackle in almost every photo of him. Perhaps it helped him hit all those high notes.
Steve was a huge fan of spandex in the 80s and he’s still inclined to wear very tight pants, if last week’s concert was anything to go by. I had to put up this pic in which spandex is masterfully combined with suspenders and fishnet across the bum to create a truly impressive outfit.
The lead singer of Bon Jovi looks exceedingly fetching in his Wanted Dead Or Alive leather pants. And he was definitely a fan of exceedingly tight jeans, including those with corset-style flies that may have made access rather difficult (see this pic).
Iron Maiden’s lead singer scaled the heights of spandex in the 80s, gadding about in a wide variety of spiffy tights. His habit of putting one foot on the speakers meant those in the first row often got a special groinal view that no doubt enhanced the drama of the moment.
Michael Hutchence
The lead singer of INXS modelled himself after Jim Morrison, including the wearing of tight leather pants. That both died young does not necessarily mean that tight leather pants are deadly, though obviously one must be very careful when tucking ones bits into body-hugging trousers.
And of course…
Spinal Tap
“We’ve got Armadillos in our trousers. It’s really quite frightening.”
It took me a while but I’ve finally finished my mini-doco about the Feminist Porn Awards and Conference 2013. I’ve tried to give an overview of what went on as well as a brief glimpse into the issues surrounding feminist porn. The original version was heaps longer and I’m going to be posting my interviews and other footage in full at Bright Desire.
I shot the whole thing using my small Sony camera so the footage and sound isn’t as professional as I’d like but it was a lot easier to just carry my little camera everywhere and shoot what I could. I’m also wishing I’d shot twice as much footage (even though I ended up with more than 3 hours worth). I had every intention of chasing down various filmmakers and performers for interviews but in the end there just wasn’t enough time. I’m very grateful to Carlyle, Carol, Sinnamon and Shar for helping me out with interviews.
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