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Mixing Business With Pleasure

This sexy threesome pic is one of my faves - I love how both the guys are totally focused on her and she’s in the middle of a gorgeous male sandwich.

You’ll find more pics from this set at the site Mixing Business With Pleasure.

And with that, I’m going to be scarce for a bit. Yes, I’ve already been very scarce as it it on this blog, I’ve been rather busy. And now I’m off for a week of pure pleasure (no business) because I’m turning 36 next week and want to have a bit of fun for the occasion.

An Interview With Emily Dubberley

Emily Dubberley is the editor of Scarlet Magazine and she used to run Cliterati which was a great female-friendly erotica site ages ago. Now she’s got a book out about kinky sex. I found this great interview with her so thought I’d throw up a quick link to it.

I tend to sympathise with this comment:

Occasionally I’ll get turned on writing about sex, but 99 per cent of the time it’s just work. I love my job but there are times when I tire of it. If I’ve got PMT, the last thing I want to do is test three sex toys.

Rove and the Knitted Nude Suit

This is Australian chat show host Rove McManus and the excitingly fashionable outfit that Bruno got him to wear.

I think we need more knitted nude suits on TV. Especially MALE nude suits. Hilarious.

The Gorgeous Tim Minchin

I’ve had this song in my head for days so I thought I’d share it.

Tim Minchin is an Australian comedian with a very dark sense of humour. He’s also strangely attractive. I think it just goes to show how eyeliner on a man can be extremely sexy.

Also just have to include the following photo, officially called “Erotic Jesus Tim” because it’s gorgeous.

See more pics at the official Tim Minchin site.

Absolute Nakedness

I post a lot of photos of naked men on the blog but this one is so very different. We’ve all seen it plenty of times but today I was just struck by the sheer beauty and vulnerability it. The photo is by Annie Lieboweitz and it was taken on December 8, 1980 - the day John Lennon was shot.

There’s something incredibly poignant about the fact that this image of passion, love and vulnerability presaged a violent death. It carries an aura of tragedy about it, even though that’s not what the photo itself has to offer.

This a photo that is about sex and yet so much more; John Lennon needs Yoko. There’s absolute openness and intense attachment on show. His nakedness and clinging pose is almost a symbol of infancy next to her clothed form. Not many man would be willing to appear naked in a photo let alone naked in such an “unmasculine” pose. Indeed, Lennon’s willingness to reveal so much of himself is perhaps what is so astonishing to us.

How does this relate to porn? Well, I guess you could say that this complete nakedness and emotional connection is what’s missing from so many images of sex. Imagine an erotic film that managed to convey the symbolism and emotional intensity of this photograph. That is something I’d love to see - or make.

Read more on this photo and Annie Liebowitz here

The photo is from this site and the photo credit of course goes to Annie Liebowitz.

I Like To Watch Male Masturbation

Here’s a promo video I made for For The Girls. My favourite is the slow motion hottie at the end. And there’s just something about guys reaching into their pants that I find rather sexy. Can you tell?

Abby Winters Gets Raided

Yesterday the Victorian cops raided the office of abbywinters.com and arrested its owner Garion Hall. The raid was instigated by a journalist at the Herald Sun who provided the cops with a “dossier” on the site.

Garion has since made a statement saying no charges were laid, no hardware was taken and the police were “polite and amiable”. No doubt this won’t satisfy the Rupert Murdoch-run paper which will continue to hound the site, even if the cops aren’t particularly interested and have much better things to do.

Even if this hasn’t become a major legal case, I’d say most of those who work in the Australian adult industry are feeling more than a little nervous, myself included.

Australians are tolerant people and survey after survey has shown that we like porn and yet our laws remain stuck in a time warp. It is illegal to produce an “objectionable film” in the states (I must admit, I didn’t know this). Of course, what qualifies as “objectionable” hasn’t been tested in court and if Abby Winters becomes the test case I’d like to see them push the issue. How many “reasonable adults” would consider that site offensive?

Fact is that Abby Winters create some of the most positive and respectful adult material that I’ve ever seen. Their rules are very strict regarding how their models are presented and I know that all the girls on the site are paid and treated exceptionally well. One of the reasons they’ve done so well is that their brand of “Australian porn” was based on respect and goodwill towards the models. Abby Winters is creating change for good by showing that you can successfully offer adult material without resulting to degrading language or acts or by grossing out the audience.

So to see our country’s ridiculous censorship laws being used against it by a journalist on a right wing “moral” crusade is pretty fucking galling.

In theory, creating an “objectionable film” extends to couples filming themselves having sex. It’s nice to know our laws are protecting people from themselves.

I really am considering emigrating.

Male Eye Candy

Here’s a bit of male eye candy to spice up the blog a bit.

More pics of this gorgeous guy here.

Cute Carlos shows off his lovely smile in this gallery

ABC Nightline To Feature Porn For Women

On Thursday 11th June “Nightline” on ABC in the US will feature a story on porn for women. Candida Royalle and Nica Noelle from Sweet Sinner are due to be interviewed. If we’re lucky - very lucky - For The Girls MIGHT get a mention. Not sure on this, especially since being in Australia makes it harder to contact us due to differing time zones.

I’m not sure what angle Nightline are going to take. A quick look at their site today reveals they’ve just done a piece called “Sex addict’s dark world” so they might want to raise the usual bogeyman of “porn addiction.” I hope Nica and Candida tell it straight on behalf of all of us.

EDIT 12 June: They’ve put off the show until next week. Maybe we will get to talk to them after all.

Penis Art Exhibition Censored

The SMH reports the Venice Biennale have rejected a proposal for an art exhibition featuring symbolic drawings of famous genitals.

Jacques Charlier, a Belgian artist, had wanted to show the visual puns, each with a written clue, inviting viewers to guess who owned what. For example, Christo’s resembled a parcel, with the clue “wraps in very special things”.

The authorities rejected the proposal for fear of offending Venetians and the artists represented.

The artist has used the banning as an opportunity to promote his work, and good on him. Here’s his site which gives details of the 100 Sexes d’Artistes exhibition and the correspondence with the directors of the Biennale. Best of all, you can flick through the entire 100 drawings online! A lot of them are very obscure and unfortunately you don’t get the written hints unless you do the quiz but it’s very amusing nonetheless.

I love the internet. Some asshole in Vienna says people aren’t allowed to see something and naturally we all immediately seek it out. And get access to it without any fucking gatekeepers telling us what’s good for us. And now I get the chance to experience a bit of art I would never have otherwise discovered.

Some of them are good, some are too obscure, and some aren’t that great. I’m glad I got to make up my own mind.

I’m Not Really A Sex Blogger

On Friday SBS Australia screened a Channel 4 documentary called The Sex Blog Girls which originally aired in the UK in late 2007. The doco primarily looks at the story of The Girl With A One Track Mind, the sex blogger who was notoriously outed by the press in 2006 when her book was released.

I’ve long admired the Girl and have been the grateful recipient of a link from her blog for several years. It was nice to see her in person (on screen at least) and hear her views on the whole subject of sex blogging, even if the documentary itself went overboard with gratuitous tit shots (honestly, do people really believe we sit here and blog in the nude?? They haven’t seen my Grumpy Monkey pyjama pants).

The Girl herself had several gripes with the doco, especially with the way they portrayed her as being the first ever sex blogger.

The whole thing had me musing about my role in the world of blogging about sex. I might write about sex but I’m not actually a “sex blogger” as such because I don’t write about my sex life. I thought I’d take a moment to explain why.

Working in the porn industry means you dwell on the outer fringes of society. There’s always a danger that the fundamentalist Christian next door could discover what you do and promptly report you to police as a pedophile (since they are usually unable to distinguish between normal porn and CP). It would only take one misplaced police raid to fuck up my entire life. Doesn’t matter that what I do is legal or positive or feminist.

This naturally engenders a certain desire for privacy. I use pseudonyms when necessary. My family and friends know what I do but the information is given out on a need-to-know basis.

So here I am working with porn images and movies and erotic fiction on a daily basis. It’s work. I have a real desire to keep my work and my private life a little bit separate, so I don’t really regularly discuss my own bedroom shenanigans, beyond a few vague mentions (or columns at For The Girls).

On top of that, I’m shy. No, don’t laugh. It takes a brave person to discuss the intimate, close-up, painful details of their sex lives for anyone to see and to be honest I just don’t have the guts to go there. My sex life is such a private thing, a thing shared between me and my husband and we just like to keep it that way.

It’s funny that when I tell people that I make porn they often get very personal and reveal things about their own porn preferences or sex lives to me. I might nod and understand, but I don’t reciprocate. I can dole out sex advice and discuss the ins and outs of BDSM or virginity statistics or anal sex without blinking… but I just don’t offer my own anecdotes. I just don’t feel entirely comfortable doing it.

Is this hypocrisy? I don’t know. I’d like to think it’s a matter of creating boundaries for myself. I’m sure that everyone who works in the sex/porn industry encounters this issue; when sex becomes a job, you have to decide where your lines are drawn and stick with them.

Perhaps it’s because my sex life isn’t worthy of headlines anyway. I’m a happily married woman in her 30s. I’ve been on the pill for almost 20 years and my libido has subsequently been nuked. There’s plenty more exciting things going on elsewhere on the net.

I sometimes wondered if I should just make stuff up for salacious fun, maybe to entice a few more readers. But then if I’m going to make stuff up I might as well just write a story for FTG and be done with it. (By the way… check out my story in Best Women’s Erotica 2009).

Nope, Ms Naughty is a blog about porn for women and feminism and news and censorship. It’s not really about my shagadelic adventures so I can’t call myself a sex blogger. If you want to read dirty stuff, check the links on the main page… or visit FTG.

5 Years Of The Blog, 6 Years Of For The Girls

On this day five years ago I wrote my first post of the old Ms Naughty’s Porn For Women Blog. Thus, today is my fifth blogaversary and I thought I’d mark the occasion by revamping the blog design.

The old theme has served me very well but it’s time I finally got with the hip and groovy things and went wider and snazzier. So I’ve now got two columns at the side and I’ve added a tag cloud, among other things. I’m also adding a few new pages and looking to revamp the linklist a little. I have no idea if this will make Google like me again; I suspect it will make no difference. But I’ve had to stop caring about search engine rank with this site and just concentrate on making it useful and readable.

June also marks the 6th birthday of For The Girls. Way back in 2003 Jane and I launched our ambitious little paysite, complete with all the guys we thought were hot and a bunch of my AWF articles.

Now, 6 years later, the site is just chock a block with content, all archived from the previous years. Who’d a thunk that we’d last this long? And we’re not going anywhere. FTG remains as popular as ever and we’re keen to keep it running for as long as women want us.

So here’s cheers to another 6 years.

Filament Hits The Press: Cue The Predictable Response

A couple of days ago I wrote about Filament, a new erotica magazine for women. Over the last few days the mag has received several mentions in mainstream media. Great PR for Filament but, unfortunately, the same old tired assumtions and discussions are being rehashed.

The Daily Mail doesn’t hesitate to come blaring in with assumptions at full mast:

Women just don’t respond to visual stimuli in the same way that men do - and if we did, I doubt whether Filament’s hairless, feminine men would be the ones to turn us on.

But then neither, in all probability, would perfectly honed, six pack-flexing, chiselled hunks. A man who can make a woman laugh is worth ten of either type. To tickle our erotic centre, we need a living, breathing, talking human being.

So why do we persist in pretending we’re just like men?

The author then goes on to say that if women do like porn, it’s because we’re embracing the “laddette” culture and trying to be blokes. She declares that “leering at pornography aimed at women” is “as innately unfeminine as drinking yourself senseless.”

Ah yes, “femininity”. That word so often used to put women in their place. I’m sure I speak for porn-loving women everywhere when I say: Fuck off, Olivia Lichtenstein.

Meanwhile, a blogger at the Brisbane Times has declared that “there’s no decent porn for women” after having done, oh, about 2 minutes worth of research into the topic. Still, at least she doesn’t give the “women aren’t visual” myth as much creedence as others:

Are women visual creatures too? Yes. Perhaps not in the same way men are perceived to be. We might not all enjoy the close-up motion shots common in most porn (though I’m sure there are women who do - and that’s great).

But we shouldn’t be told that sex is only as good as we think or feel it is. And men shouldn’t be told that it’s only as good as it looks.

Unfortunately the majority of commenters seem to have ignored this and are rehashing the old assumptions about women and porn.

Over at the New York Press. the writer warns the magazine that it’s probably too academic and “dry”. I guess there’s no pleasing some people.

At least the New Zealanders don’t go for the usual angles. They’re just proud that the magazine’s creator is a kiwi.

I received an email from Filament’s creator, Suraya, today. I’m looking forward to hearing more about why she’s decided to go into hard-copy publishing and also her other plans for the mag.

Here’s their site.

Oh Dear. It’s Mike The Superhero Male Stripper

My eyes, the goggles do nothing!

Yes folks, don’t say I never give you anything. Here he is in all his 1980s synthesizer glory, Mike The Superhero. Stay tuned for the bit at 1:50 when a lovely bit of pectoral flexing goes on. And yes, that is his own moustache.

What can I say? This is exactly why so many people believe that “women aren’t visual.” Thank goodness Manpower upped the ante a bit in the 90s.

New Porn Movies For Women

I’ve just spent a couple of days adding over 30 new film listings to Porn Movies For Women.

I’ve created several pages for individual filmmakers and studios including Madison Young, Sweet Sinner and Libido Films.

I’m actually a little embarrassed that I hadn’t added Libido Films earlier. The movies made by Marianna Beck over the last decade truly are good quality porn for women starring real-looking people having real orgasms.

I want to point you towards a great interview done with Marianna and Jack Hafferkamp called Libido Films Laid Bare.

An excerpt:

Are your movies designed to help guys get feminist nookie?
MARIANNA: We think they’re designed to help guys realize what women’s sexual pleasure is really about. And here’s what it really is about . . . clitoral stimulation! So we almost always try to integrate a vibrator in scenes involving partner sex. Vibrators make some guys nervous. But as our friend Betty Dodson puts it, “a smart guy soon figures out that the vibrator is really his best friend.”

What’s the way to a feminist’s heart?
MARIANNA: Showing signs of intelligent life . . . and remembering that clitoral stimulation. If you mean by feminist a woman who is interested in sex and wants to see an erotic story with a storyline, dialogue, and real sex, that’s a good start.

Great philosophy.