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All About Cake PartiesTurns out that this is not entirely the case. CAKE parties, in fact, are "erotic entertainment for women" evenings at which all sorts of naughty things occur. Yes, women strip... but so do the men. In fact, I did some researh into the whole CAKE movement and found myself feeling embarrassed again. Here is another set of women who are working hard to create female-friendly erotic entertainment, and I was completely unaware of them. Dammit. CAKE has been happening in New York for five years (I'm Australian, so I guess it's not surprising I've never heard of them). The parties are big social events for women (and any men they deign to bring) with the focus on "exploring female sexuality." So Cake parties regularly feature male strippers, burlesque-type cabaret shows, bondage evenings, gambling and cocktails. In fact, it seems to be an "anything goes" kind of sex club for women. Which is cool because men have been hogging the "sex club" scene for a long time. It's nice to know there's a place for chicks to enjoy themselves and to be in charge of the action. The CakeNYC website has a fabulous mission statement and philosophy on it that I thoroughly endorse: Women like to initiate sex We get turned on every day of the week We are visual We fantasize We know how to get ourselves off We like sex We know how are bodies work Sex isn’t over until we orgasm Giddy up. I joined the website, but haven't forked over the US$100 to become a member. I mean, why bother, I'm 12,000 miles away (and, judging from the photos of their latest event, far too unfashionable for such a party anyway). The site has terrible navigation, and has only just got on its feet, but I'm sure it will improve. What is good, however, is the open letter to the feminist community in reply to the assertions of "Female Chauvinist Pigs" among others. I just have to quote these two paragraphs, because I think they're well worth repeating: "Some feminists still believe that public displays of sexuality are male designed and any woman who wants to be recognized as sexual in public is an unfortunate, unwitting pawn in an evil and ever-growing male fantasy. Some say we are playing into a "false consciousness" - meaning that we cannot trust our own judgments or choices. "We believe that this philosophy flattens female sexual culture just as insipidly as a Playboy centerfold spread. In a recent New York Times book review, Jennifer Egan asks 'Why do women persist in watching themselves through male eyes? Our answer? We don't! Instead of assuming that men define all women's actions, let's look at the ways women are choosing to be sexual on their own terms." Well said, CAKE ladies! And go to it, I say! Posted: Thursday 17th November 2005, 11:54 PM Back to the Blog
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