I too am something of a cunning capitalist. Making porn sites for women is how I earn my living, but I still consider myself a feminist, and I still want to help women to enjoy their sexuality. I don’t think people automatically abandon all their ideals and ethics the moment they try to make money. I believe that it’s possible for capitalism and feminism to co-exist.

I found the criticism of CAKE frustrating because it seems to imply that there is only one kind of empowerment for women, that there is some kind of “official feminist way” or “official female sexuality” and anything that deviates is not quite right. That’s where I was coming from on this topic.

I did not see competitiveness in the statement “sex isn’t over until we come” although I can see it might be read that way. For me that phrase is more about moving away from the penis-in-vagina version of sex, and saying that a woman’s orgasm is just as important as a man’s. If it’s taken for granted that sex isn’t over until a woman comes, then the woman has the power to say “You know, I’m not in the mood, you go ahead.” That’s a better circumstance than him rolling over and her lying there feeling pissed off because “sex is over.”